Three ways how to rock your goals the rest of 2019

Every year will brings changes, challenges, opportunities, growth. But sometimes, some of us get discouraged and lose out. It was a time in my life where i felt that i will never succeed, and although i might not have told no one how i felt, it use to stop me from achieving my goals. But, eventually you will grow out of that stage and not let that stop you from creating your future. That’s what i did. I got tired of always talking down on myself and not understanding “life”, because when you don’t have a understanding on what’s going on you will never move on.

1. WHAT IS IT THAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK?

No really, what is holding you back? Figure out what’s holding you back and what’s stopping you from moving forward. You can’t achieve anything still dwelling on the past or what’s currently bothering you. Figure out how to let anything negative or stressful in your life. The problem is that “we live in the past” and of course we refuse to move on. We hold on to the past constantly, and fail to take responsibility for our own lives. But, truth be told we are “all messed up in a way”. Everything can’t be picture perfect and everything can’t go how you want it to be, but how can we succeed without putting in no effort?

We should not let our past stop us from creating the future we always dreamed to have. There are many things you might find yourself feeling guilty about but that don’t mean you feel sorry for yourself, just keep going. The past is the past, and your future starts now.

 

 

2. NO MORE EXCUSES

One thing i can say is that everyone including myself have made excuses. We have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and also stop trying to figure out why is certain things aren’t going the way we want it to. The only way you will deal with circumstances is if you allow your present to enter into your future, for an example you might not have enough (money, help, or no resources), but you can’t let that be the defining problem. Everything you believe yourself to be is a whole combo of what you’ve been through, things like the way you grew up in your home, or what your family taught you. The way people have treated you, or the things you experienced around you while growing up.

Truth be told, you are strong, because you made it here today. No matter how unfair you feel how your life has been, it was the past. Don’t let how far you have come today stop you from going to where you want to be now. Throw those excuses in the trash, let go of the negative thoughts and chase after what you want, even if you have to take baby steps. If you think about it that is how you are preparing for your future. Small changes can make a big difference. I always been taught to discipline myself. Why? Because discipline is strict. That means you are focused, and you aren’t letting nothing or no body get in the way. It’s all about making a change in your day to day habits & choices. The willingness in changing your old habits to new & better ones is by being consistent.

3. FORGIVING YOURSELF

One problem i had growing up was that i never forgave myself & certain people. I had it bad holding grudges, and not letting go. First off, you have to forgive yourself first. And i did so. You can’t live in the past, because if you do, then you will never accomplish anything. We have to start practicing on self-care, and loving ourselves more, because once you love yourself that means nothing in the past will never even exist in your future. We are unwilling to forgive ourselves, but why? Because we get or get put in certain situations and hate ourselves for it. Sometimes just being human we think everything suppose to be perfect, but everything can’t be picture perfect, and sometimes being a perfectionist will not allow us to understand how it feels to grow from certain situations. For an example, say if 4 years ago you never got lucky with a job because you were being picky so now you beat ourselves up about it, hit rock bottom, and lost all you had, then today you have a $20/hr job, got everything you always wanted, and live in a condo. That feeling of success feels amazing! You can’t keep putting yourself down because the choices you make or made, you have to move on from it, look past it, and keep going.

 

LET ME TELL YOU THIS: YOU WILL FAIL “At some point”

But, you will fail to get up and try again, and again until you make it to your destination in life. Sometimes we are wiser than we think, it’s just sometimes we just lose hope, but starting today DON’T. You have the ability to make your own choices, and to erase any thoughts you are having by forgiving yourself and not letting your past affect you in today’s life.

 

 

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5 Tips to heal your depression

Hey to all my blog buddies, new blog buddies, and new readers. I have had a hard time with battling depression/anxiety for a while now. And i definitely know that i am not alone when it comes to mental health. It’s so many other people that suffer from anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and it’s sad that a lot of us don’t get recognition as we should. I blog about my anxiety, but not as much as i should, because the simple fact i figured out how to cope with it better. My cope is blogging, mind exercises, self-care, and so much more. I turned my blog into a full lifestyle blog, so i can be more open to connect with others, and just tell it like it is. Now i feel that i need to continuously discuss mental health topics more, because i touch so many people that suffered like me, and not only that i get personal emails from people who actually open up to me about there mental health and want tips on what i do to keep me strong. So, lets get to it, I have 5 tips that can help heal your depression. 

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#1 MAKE LIFE CHANGES:

First thing first, make life changes. I am not going to act as if i’m so perfect and i made so many changes in my life, but i can say i made enough changes that gained me enough faith to make it through out the day without being depressed. Change your health, If you didn’t know, eating unhealthy 24/7 isn’t good. Bad foods increase your stress level, mood swings, and also mess with your weight. We all know excessive weight gain & weight-loss also can put you through an depression. Now i am going to be honest with you, if you aren’t the healthiest like myself, at least take baby steps. I am not the healthiest, but i am working on it, which makes it even better that i am dominant & consistent with trying. Work out. If you aren’t into doing strict work outs, like lifting weights, hiking, or riding a bike. You can actually take a walk for 30 minutes a day. If you don’t want to walk, get on the treadmill for 30 minutes and walk 2.0 mph.

 

#2 HAVE FAITH

A lot of people who suffer from depression, do not have faith in themselves. That is a (true fact). We tend to fear in the society we live in, and not believe that we can succeed in life. That comes with being scared of failure. When you are depressed, you can’t take failure quite frankly. But, what we don’t realize, is that failure comes with life. We are going to fail at some point, and the only thing we can do is keep going. When you are always worried, then it’s hard to accept the fact we didn’t get our way with certain things or situations. You have to learn how to accept failure, and have faith that the next time or the time after that everything will fall into place.

 

#3 BE OPEN TO NEW OPPORTUNITIES/IDEAS

I know when you are depressed it’s hard to move on to the next chapter in your life because we are always so stuck into the past and what’s current in our life. Sometimes you have to skip to the next chapter and move on to better things. In ordinary to even move forward in life, we have to be open to new things that are coming our way. it is way to much of us with talent, well-educated, & really wised. We tend to forget that though. Well guess what? DON’T. Don’t be afraid to move forward. Don’t lose out on what can be your next big deal, or your next big job that pays the price you always desired. Don’t be afraid to approach others that are in a much higher stage than you, they might be the next help to your solution or dream. Also being open to new ideas can help you stay focus on other things besides the problems you have behind closed doors.

 

#4 CUT OFF TIME Ο‡

It’s definitely time to refresh your life, meaning to let go of  bad spirits & toxic souls that are around you. In this era so many negative people bring negativity in your life that you begin to be negative to. NOT GOOD! Stop being afraid to let go of certain people that is no good. Not blaming others, because we do have a choice to choose how we are, but just by having someone who is just as negative or worst, can just make sh*t even more toxic. Did you know two toxic people or multiple toxic people together makes your life so much complicated. Drama, messy bs, he say/she say, lies, fighting, and so much other irrelevant non-sense. Who wants to keep dealing with that? NOT ME! and you shouldn’t neither.

You have to be authentic with yourself and know that misery loves company, so the more you entertain people bullsh*t, you will continue to be in something that isn’t even benefiting your life. Don’t be easily manipulated by others. Some people are naturally evil, and you have to understand that it is nothing you can do to change people. So what do you do about that? CUT THEM OFF!

 

#5 SEEK MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELING/HELP & STOP BLAMING OTHERS

Some people are so stuck in there a** that they don’t believe in seeking help. Accept the fact you have a PROBLEM. I DID. YOU CAN TO! Being in denial because you don’t want to look crazy or care about what other people think, will not help you get better at all. You will continue to keep living a lie. Stop living to please others, and live to please you. Self-care is important. So take care of your mental, your body, your soul. Seeking a COUNSELOR works. It’s better talking to someone, who completely knows nothing about you, and will tell you like it is 100%.

Lets be real. Think about it. How many times have you had episodes, because someone “made you mad” or that person or people “sound dumb”, so you just completely went off and throw super massive temper tantrums. If you are the one always “going off and have super bad temperament issues”, i’m sorry you are the PROBLEM. Not 10 people are all just dumb, and you are the brilliant one here, but the main aggressive one that is cussing everyone out.

I had to learn the hard way. I thought about my actions, and really sat in watch certain ways how i react to certain situations. I don’t much throw temper tantrums, but i admit that i have flaws that i definitely needed to work on and still do. I have more problems (Internal then out). I have had debates & arguments no need to front, but not with so many people because i stay to myself a lot. I’m not innocent one bit. I am pretty much open to be honest about my lifestyle.

I can actually open up and admit to the world, I have seek counseling, and also do my own therapy now. I still have some work to do, but the best thing is that i took the initiative to work on myself. I put me FIRST. When you know deep down you have a problem, sometimes you can’t get rid of that problem on your own. It’s okay to admit to it. But, you have to stop living a lie, and live in your truth. You know sometimes is wrong every time you burst out into tears, or you have black outs. You just like to blame others for that problem. People aren’t going to change for you, no matter what you dislike about them, and honestly you have to really sit in think (Who am i to tell someone about themselves), as humans we tend to forget that we have issues we need to work out before judging the next person on the side of us. So you have to understand and realize that no one can’t really make you lash out but yourself. GET HELP. Take your mental health serious, because a lot of people don’t and sometimes situations turn out to a bad outcome. Life is precious, take it serious and be honest with your issues and willing to change them.

 

I hope that these tips are helpful, if they are shoot me an email or DM me on my social media, Lets chat about it! Life is tough & sometimes we need an extra ear to hear us out! 

 

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7 HABITS THAT WILL THROW OFF YOUR PRODUCTIVITY

So many distractions, so many plans… so many goals to complete… in not much time!

I’m sorry but doesn’t it seem like every time you try to focus on getting things done, you begin to feel less unproductive. Try creating a schedule or a to do list. I am more of a scheduler type of girl, and i swear to you that i spend more of my time writing it out then actually doing what i planned to do. Or i end up doing something else important that i instantly get distracted and next thing you know it i am on my phone doing something totally different like browsing the internet looking at shoes & clothes.

The main point is that productivity has always been something you have to level up in, and a work-in-progress, it’s an life experience we all go through. Things happen, things  change, but we have to work around all that stress to stay productive. #1 FACT: Trashing all habits that kill your productivity.

 

 

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1. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

2. LACK OF SLEEP 

Do you have times when you feel like there isn’t enough hours in the day? Yup definitely. There always seems to be something else you planned on getting done before night time gets here. Some days we even stay up almost until the next day or just go to sleep extremely late just to do something else. Other times we have a hard time shutting our eyes the first couple hours because now our mind just want let us with all the anxious thoughts we are having. Thinking about all the task we didn’t do but we could have did. So we tell our selves, “Okay we will do it tomorrow”, but then we think about how tired we will be because we are still up in the middle of the night now.

Not getting enough sleep can affect your memory, performance, health, and your ability to concentrate. Also lack of sleep makes it hard to make decisions. If this is something you struggle with, work on developing better habits for bedtime. I definitely had to. Try making a schedule for bed time, and find out what can actually help you sleep better (Naturally).

 

 

3. LACK OF ROUTINE

Planning productive habits and actually sticking to a routine helped me out in improving my productivity. Now that i am back in fitness. I get up 7:30, take my daughter to school. Come home, make breakfast + pot of coffee. Go work out from 11:30 am – 12:15 pm. Then after all that i come home, clean, and figure out what i am going to cook for the day. After all that, I spend the rest of my day working on my blog. I fell off when it comes to productivity and having a routine. I also began to stress a lot, so now that i am back at it with my routine i have listed above, I haven’t let my stress stop me from taking care of myself.

 

 

My productivity depended on those daily habits. This routine is what kept me on the right path, and motivates me to keep moving forward no matter what is going on in my life. Now that i took a big jump back & created a new routine for myself, my productivity has improved so much. Having a customized routine added to your schedule keeps you focused on the way you move daily. Your life doesn’t have be boring, or difficult just stay more organized.

 

 

4. TECHNOLOGY DISTRACTION

Of course you would think it’s meant to make our lives more productive and more simple, but for the most part, it is the total opposite. Consistently checking your email, checking your social media before & after a nap, every time your phone notification goes off you pick up your phone fast, or when someone is talking to you but your face in stuck in your phone and not the conversation. That is a distraction, a major one. Those are some things that will kill off your productivity and any digital advice is definitely the blame. Digital devices distractions breaks the flow of your productivity. Your brain has to focus on what is important, or else you will lose out on a lot more thank you think.

 

 

5. PERFECTIONIST

If you struggle with being a perfectionist chances are that you also have that β€œI don’t care ” attitude. It’s when you’re never happy with pretty much anything that comes your way, everything you do has to be done absolutely perfectly or else you will have a fit. There’s also a lot of fear of failure and anxiety involved, but a perfectionist hides it due to caring about what others think. All of this combined can affect your productivity in a big way, no in a EXTREME WAY. The major key is to really focus on your goals and tasks, rather than that fear of making a mistake, because mistakes are going to happen in and out your life. I feel that being a perfectionist is hard to come by, or just a mind thing. but you can start by changing your perspective, the way you think, and realizing just how often you use it as an excuse to not complete your daily goals & task.

 

 

6. LACK OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

Stressful situations can throw you off track. When your mind is clogged up with anxiety, worry, and fear, your productivity falls off. It’s important to know how to manage your stress, and deal with it in a much healthier way. Meditation, yoga, writing/journaling, and just taking care of yourself like you should. Figure out how to cope with repeatedly stress issues.

 

 

7. LACK OF DISCIPLINE + FAILURE TO ARRANGE

When it comes down to it, lack of discipline is one of the main habits that throw your productivity off. There will be plenty of days when you won’t feel like getting things done, days when working on something that’s important to you is the last thing you feel like doing. Motivation comes and goes in and out our lives, and you can’t rely on it to always be there, because trust me it’s not. When you lose motivation you sometimes also lose your willing power to be productive. Focus on building habits that will help you become more self-disciplined and learning to arrange your tasks is one of them. Use your willing power to create more habits that will improve your productivity, rather than depending on motivation all the time.

 

 

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41 facts to tell yourself when feeling down

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So i definitely don’t know about ya’ll but me? I have days when i feel unproductive, down, unhappy, or just want to give up. It was a time in my life when i felt that way everyday. Now i decided to list down things i tell myself when i am feeling like sh*t! I hope it might work for someone else out there :).

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DREAMS + GOALS

  • I set strict goals for myself
  • I believe in myself
  • Today, I am taking action towards completing my goals
  • I am willing to step out of my comfort zone and make a change
  • My mind is clear and strong
  • Creativity defines me easily
  • I am determined of my dreams and I will make them come true
  • I am an unstoppable, creative being
  • I have strong willpower and can change my habits with ease
  • My vision and purpose are clear to me
  • I already have the wisdom and courage it takes to make my dreams come true
  • I feel strong and inspired every single day

CONFIDENCE + FEAR + CHALLENGES

  • I am fearless
  • My challenges help me grow
  • I choose to let go of everything that does not serve me
  • I live my life on my own terms
  • My life is full of purpose and passion
  • I am free of all worry and anxiety
  • By challenging my fears, I become stronger
  • All is well in my world, I feel safe
  • I let go of any limiting thoughts and beliefs

 

RELATIONSHIPS

  • I communicate with honesty and compassion
  • I see love in everyone and everywhere I go
  • There is love all around me
  • I practice and show kindness to everyone around me
  • My heart is open, I only speak with loving words
  • I choose to surround myself only with positive people who lift my energy
  • I am thankful for all the love and wonderful relationships in my life
  • I am infinitely loved, and I love infinitely
  • My love for others is unconditional

 

SELF-LOVE

  • My body is pure, my heart is at peace
  • I am one of a kind and nothing can replace me
  • I am allowed to feel good about myself
  • I love myself unconditionally
  • I appreciate myself with every decision I make
  • I will not allow my past to define who i am
  • I am at peace with myself
  • I honor who I am
  • I am worthy of all the love and joy life has to offer
  • I take time to show myself how special I am
  • I bring self-love and compassion into my life

 

 

So those was the things i tell myself to feel better and to get through out my day, week, month, etc. I hope that some of you saved this blog or wrote down some of these facts in there notes. 

 

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Less comparing and more living

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The other day, I realized a lot of people complain way to much about things in life. I mostly see people complain on social media and it’s really bothering. We have to come to a realization in life that everything isn’t permanent, so the only thing we can do is go with the flow.

You are not in competition with anyone not even yourself. Life is all about different experiences and breaking your own limits while growing. But as a blogger when it comes to social media i struggled with comparison because people on there is very competitive & egocentric. Now i can understand and have compassion for those who don’t feel so strongly about themselves.  

 

Truthfully, comparison will have you trying to get ahead & out grow your growth. Meaning, you will not be able to experience anything because you tried jumping to far ahead of the next.

You finally get 2 likes on your picture, but another person gets 6k, now you start feeling like as if you aren’t good enough. You thought you dressed better but you see someone else you feel that dress better. Why can’t this just stop? When can we stop doing things to just pleasing ourselves? 

 

I think at times we all need a reminder that nothing good will never come when comparing is involved from one life to another’s. 

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Of course, it’s part of life to compare but all it will do is hold you back. It takes your focus off your goals and put your focus on others. Sometimes we have to step behind and come to a realization that life isn’t about competing with the next. There is plenty of other bloggers that are just as successful & motivating as you.

 

Instead of wasting your time, here’s a few things that can help:

 

1. Set strict goals: Whatever that didn’t get took care of the day before, strive to get it done today, tomorrow, or the end of the week. Focus on what needs to be done, not what haven’t.

 

2. Internet detox: Delete all social media apps off your phone for a couple days & go out to the real world with out it. Catch up with family, friends, or go get a new book to read. Use your energy into something productive & meaningful.

3. Write in journal: This is all time my favorite. Writing in a journal is very helpful. Take time out to just write out everything that is bothering you, everything that is making you happy, or just anything that comes to mind. Journaling is like talking to a therapist but your writing it to yourself.

 

              

            Now days the world we live in, everyone mimics one another life, or someone idolize the next person more than themselves. We have to practice more self-care, and be more focused on what is more important then the unimportant. Start living in the moment, and continue living to make you happy. Discover more on what’s going on in our outside lives, instead of our phone lives. It gets better when you just think ahead more. 

 

 

Anyways, wrapping up this blog. Hope this was helpful for some or all. 

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6 things to focus on when you are feeling stuck

I’m sure whoever reading this has a time in life where they felt stuck, and sometimes you end up losing focus on what’s important in life. We have to take time out to start using self-care first. I have had plenty of times where I felt trapped in a box in didn’t know how to get out, but eventually I got out. So that’s why today I will list 6 things to focus on when you are feeling stuck.

LET GO OF YOUR PAST

We tend to hold on to things that are always bothering us, holding on to people that are always hurting us, surrounding our selves around bad energy. It’s time to just focus on the future in leave the past behind. In ordinary to move forward you have to stop going backwards.

TAKE A STEP BACK

I can truly say that taking a break is definitely needed. Give yourself at least one day to just focus on you. Sometimes we don’t understand that we need to take time out to just feel sorry for ourselves meaning to “focus on ourselves” for once. Let out all your frustration, pain, stress, & just cry it out. Basically be expressive without holding anything back. Sit in ask yourself about thing that make you feel stuck, frustrated, confused, or sad. What can you do to work on those feelings? What are things you can change? What are things you can’t change?

 

FIND OUT WHAT INSPIRES YOU

Figure out what inspires you. Remember there are millions of ways that you can feel inspired. Find an inspiring book, go on http://www.amazon.com, they have so many inspiring books to read. Listen to a inspirational podcast, or find an inspiring blog. Or inspire yourself. I am going to be honest, I motivate&inspire myself. I’m sure others do to. I will write things down in my journal or record an video in go back to it to use it as inspiration. It’s up to you to be your own inspiration though, it’s called taking time to yourself, realize all the good about you and how you always speak facts when it comes to your life.

 

STEP OUT YOUR COMFORT ZONE

When was the last time you actually did something you always wanted to do but never did it? or Something really fun that made you feel young again or just free & open? Try something new, try something different. This can be away to get you out of “repeating the same things over&over”. Of course it doesn’t have to be anything expensive, or time consuming, just as long as it’s something that will take you out your comfort zone. You get to start noticing different thing about you, like how you are now much braver, bolder, and a little more open to do more things. Doing things you have always been fearful of will only show that your growing. Getting that excitement to your life definitely can help you build a bigger & better personality. It also can help you learn more what life has to offer in see things in a different view now.

FINDING YOUR SELF

Take time out to find yourself, to really know what you want in life. Don’t settle for just anything. Your happiness is what will keep you going. Sometimes we don’t really just sit in figure out who we really are, I know a lot of people let other people judgment reflect on who they are. Remember self care is what will keep you up lifted.

CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE

It comes to a time in life you have to let go of your past. Change your attitude, change all the negative thoughts you been having or still having. By gaining a new perspective, write down the negatives & positives. Scratch out all the negatives and turn them in to positives. Maybe go travel some where to get a clear mind distance yourself from your current situation. Open up to new things & new people. Be around others who might be ahead of you and that are inspiring. All of these changes will help you gain a new perspective on the future and what is possible.

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4 Simple Self-care ideas for short timing

Think of some of the little things that used to put a smile on your face, things that used to make you feel happy and content. Things that brought joy to your life as a child.

I remember i use to go outside to pick up all the leafs in separate the bad ones from the good ones. I also remember playing jump rope and hop scotch. Even times when i use to sit in the window and watch everyone pass by or watch the rain come down.

We all need “time” but we have to admit that we need/deserve a small break. What are your challenges with practicing self-care? 

I always say “You only can take care of yourself better then anyone, because you know how you want to be treated”. That was always my mood.

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GO BACK IN TIME

No matter how old you are, you are never to old to take it back to the old times. Go skating, jump in the bed, have a karaoke session.

Think of things that use to bring you happiness, things you don’t really do any more due to time, make them part of your self-care routine.

 

 

 

MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF

Take time out for yourself. Go to your favorite restaurant, go grab your favorite ice-cream, or go find something to do that you can schedule in just like you would schedule a doctors visit. Don’t cancel out or nothing, really make this time out for yourself.

Don’t forget, self-care isn’t just about always looking good. My off days from my job are Mon, Tues, Wed. So when i’m off work, I make sure i dip into some of my money and go get me a Jamba juice, hit the nail shop in get a color change or fill, maybe go to the movies and take a walk at the park. I also like being in complete silence for 30 mins, and man it makes me feel so much better. I’ll even make me a cup of coffee and in the process of doing that, ill go head in do some laundry. I also enjoy playing The Sims 4. So i will make time to play for about an hour because it helps me mentally to just relax in not think to much. Of course, I’d love to be able to take the rest of the day off, put my feet up and do nothing else but write in my journal or just nothing at all, but all day? that sounds to good to be true honestly, and it’s totally fine. After a tough/stressful week, 30nminutes of self-care, spent alone, just by doing nothing or doing some breathing exercises can be enough to get you energized for the day.

 

 

 

NIGHT TIME UNWINDING

Most of us don’t really take unwind really serious, we usually just take things off in jump in the bed. Lets make our unwinding more thoughtful. Lets make our night unwind ritual part of our self-care routine.

Stop bringing things to the bed that doesn’t help you with unwinding. For an example: No electronics. No lap top, no phones. Use this time to refresh your brain. Read a book, take a nice warm bubble bath, listen to a podcast. I do my night care routine. I put on a face mask because it relaxes me, then rinse with hot water, brush my teeth, tie my hair up, and make me a cup of caffeine free tea. This helps me unwind, relax and get prepared for bed time.

 

 

 

EMOTIONAL RELEASE

Some people don’t like leaking out there emotions and keep them bottled in, and some actually feel more relieved releasing it out. But.. how about you check in with your own emotions.

My #1 emotional release is journaling, Journaling has got me through a lot of issues, emotionally & mentally. Some may think it’s weird or corny, but writing out your feelings actually can help with more than you think. You will be surprised how many people actually write, even if it’s in there notes. If you never thought about journaling I highly suggest you start your journey with some writing/journaling prompts.

Writing down all your feelings, your thoughts, your questions, your fears, can bring some much clarity into your life. This is definitely useful if you normally get overwhelmed at times. It’s time to be more mindful to yourself, and your own emotions. Sometimes you have to just out yourself first, and work on your own feelings.

 

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Gift guide for the home body





AROMATHERAPY STRESS RELIEF EUCALYPTUS & SPEARMINT BODY BUTTER WITH NATURAL ESSENTIAL OILS:

This product helps clears the mind,
24 hours of continuous moisture, and also you have to breathe deeply for the best results. If you also a big fan of super soft skin, this product is definitely for you.

Velour Lip Scrub:

I know a lot of people love body and facial scrub, well how about lip scrub? Wait don’t forget this lip scrub is flavored! I recommend this one if you love pancakes like me :)!

Sleeping Eye mask:

I mean what can i say? We need our beauty rest, and should sleep like the beautiful woman we are right? Eye mask just brings that glamour women all need. Makes me feel like a princess truthfully.

Coffee machine maker:

I recommend a coffee mark to real coffee lovers. Sometimes saving $5 from going to Starbucks is actually smart. You can make your own Starbucks right from the kitchen! Coffee at home just makes you feel more relaxed and comfortable.

Chesapeake Bay – Mind&body Candle:

Can i say that this candle is really for the mind&body. Grab a glass of wine, light it up, put on some soothing music and i promise this will definitely make you feel so soothed and light. These candles have different scents and meanings. This one is peace&franquility.

Robe:

Home robes are a must. Robes come in handy when it’s cozy and want to just feel homey. I possible think anyone wouldn’t mind having one at all.

Two piece pjs:

Can’t never go wrong finding the cutest two piece pajamas.

House Slippers:

I don’t know about you but slippers are the #1 comfort for keeping your feet warm and not getting dirty from walking around your home. I recommend cotton slippers if your feet is always getting cold.

“Home is where you should be at peace, home is where you should focus on your mind&body health. Home is where you should feel the most safe.”

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4 Tips to removing negativity from your life

We are all old enough to understand that negative energy is everywhere. We also know that being around negative people can affect you as well. So what are you going to do about it? Continuously feed into there bullshit? or work on removing all that negativity away from your life. Aren’t you tired of sharing all the exciting things that are happening in your life with people you truly care about, and all you want them is to be happy but instead they give you a dry response or the silent treatment? Truthfully it’s time to just let them go, we all need a support system in our lives. By noticing negative thoughts and swapping them with positive ones, you can suffused your daily life with more moments in improving your health.

 

 

Here is a few tips on how to remove negative energy from your life:

 

1. LETTING GO YOUR SURROUNDINGS:

Let go of any negative surroundings, even if it’s yourself, let it go! We all have our own way of thinking negative at times. No need to be ashamed or feel bad that you have negative thoughts passing through at times. The question is that are you willing to let go of those negative thoughts and swap it into positive?

Yes you are, so do it. Anyone that is around you that have nothing nice to say, sorry it might sound rude cut them off. Those people aren’t supportive not one bit, why keep people around that never have nothing nice to say or just around to put you down.

 

 

2. REMOVING NEGATIVITY FROM YOUR LIFE: STAY PUT

One of the easy ways to feel happy, right this moment, is learning how to be still. Listen to your thoughts. You move around all day, working, taking care of yours kids+others, trying to make sure bills paid on time, making sure all your goals for the week are done. Take time out the day to just STAY PUT. Try not to think about what else needs to get done or who needs your help.

When you start feeling frustrated, or overwhelmed by any negativity, take a moment to just relax and stay put. Your mental health is important, some of us don’t take it too seriously because they feel as if they are going to lose out on all the hard work they put in. You have to have faith and believe in the process, believe in your success, know your strength. Understand that if you take a little break your bounce back game is always on top.

 

3. STOP TALKING ABOUT IT AND BE ABOUT IT

When you surround yourself around people who consistently complain/nag about the same situation all day, you will eventually act on it to and become the exact same way. Others love to play the victim, blame game, and be in denial, instead of being positive about the situation. You can’t accomplish anything sitting around shouting (“Why me?” , “It’s not fair”).

Hoping and wishing also isn’t going to make things happen how you want it to. Don’t be a pouter. Things aren’t moving how you want it to because you aren’t even moving, your at a stand still wanting things to come in a blink of an eye. “Striving to achieve your goals isn’t easy, but neither is feeling lost and unproductive like nothing isn’t going how you want it to in life”. Stop talking about it and be about it.

 

 

4. FULFILL YOUR LIFE WITH HAPPINESS

Think about what makes you happy. Take time out to do something fun, and even practice SELF-CARE to focus on you sometimes. We make space intentionally for good things to happen for ourselves. You have to acknowledge all the good things instead of the bad. If you believe that good things will happen then it will. Be around people that make you laugh, smile, bring the inner happiness out of you.

 

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Take care of yourself. Be careful of the company you bring around you. It is your responsibility to not think so poorly of your life and stop throwing a pity party every time something don’t go expected. Focus more on fixing the problem, and figuring out the next steps in moving forward. 

 

Share below: Are you still allowing negative energy and negative people into your life, but it’s not purposely and intentionally? If so, what’s one step you can take today to remove the negativity from your life? What did you do to remove this problem?

 


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HOW TO DO A MENTAL CLEANSE

 

 

BE PRESENT

Being present is about letting go of your fears, being free of whatever that was left in the past. Teach your mind to always be present in that exact moment. Staying in the moment also will improve your mental state of mind. Practice more on what is going on now, what do you need to change now, what can benefit you now. Don’t feel scared to lose track of things that matter, because all what you lost track of, will definitely come back. Being present is letting go of those fears and just having a good mental cleanse without judgment in every thought/situation.

 

IT’S IN YOUR CONTROL, STAY FOCUSED

Whenever I feel like some things are slowly falling out of my control, when stress and my depression is taking over, I try my best to focus on things that IΒ canΒ control in my life.

Is it always really this easy?

Shit no! it’s not.

When you’re going through a situation where you know you can’t change certain things at the time or at all, you can very easily find yourself feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. Don’t put yourself into nothing that isΒ beyond your control because it is a waste. There is a difference between taking action and solving through your problems. What you CAN control, is what you are mainly focused on, and know that you will always have power with yourself. Focus on things that you can control.

 

 

 

 

EMOTIONAL CLEANSE

Having an emotional cleanse isn’t necessarily about getting rid of any feelings or emotions you consider bad or negative. It’s about replacing your emotional feelings back to your normal self. There are plenty of ways to approach an emotional cleanse. I usually find a quiet place, turn on my aromatherapy or light up a scented candle, turn on some music, get my famous pen, and grab my journal. I start off writing:

Today i realized that my stress has…..

Lately, I’ve been feeling…

What makes me happy is….

I have decided to let go of the things that bring me down like,…..

I feel most like myself when i……

When i write my thoughts i feel……

When you write out your issues rather it’s good or bad, you are being honest within yourself, and when you read what you have written, you are witnessing your growth right in front of your eyes. Journaling will help you visualize everything that is going on, you have to be reminded so you can learn from it and leave it in the past. It will help you discover other reasons why you feel the way you are feeling, and any other misplaced hidden emotions. For example, you might discover that your toxic relationship happen to be one of the reasons why you are always moody, or you might come to a thought that you might fear failure, it can be anything honestly.

My best advice to you is to keep a notebook handy so you can always keep track of your thoughts, bad or good. Make sure you write them down and make it useful. Try to stick to it. Once you give up then it’s like the same cycle all over again.Β 

 

 

GET RID OF THE NEGATIVE

So it’s understandable that we all go through our ups and down, some of us are emotional and have deep stories behind our smiles and sad faces. But…negative vibes that are always in your presence, it’s not good for you AT ALL! Negativity some how travels along way, and yea sometimes it can be easier said then done that you are going to leave negative situations+people alone, then you some how tend to still be apart of there drama. So, don’t be that person to continuously put up with uncalled for drama. Make negative situations into positive ones, it will show so much of your growth!

 

 

 

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