3 Ways To Find Motivation When You Have None – LIFESTYLE

Feeling unmotivated can happen to the best of us and sometimes you get into such a slouchy mood that even thinking about making positive changes to your lifestyle, it seems way too hard. Lack of motivation can be the biggest fumble to achieving your goals. But it’s never too late for change, because there is plenty of motivational tips + techniques that can help you. But be aware that every motivational tip may not help for you like it did for the next. Sometimes what doesn’t help for you can steer you in the direction to something that probably can help.

Here are 5 ways to help you find motivation when you have none:

1. Get outside with nature

Sitting in the house because you consider yourself a “homebody” can eventually mentally drain you without you actually knowing it’s draining you. Sometimes seeing other humans walking around or seeing the birds fly back & forth, or just viewing the beautiful greenery can be so therapeutic. Don’t get it wrong I have my days where I slip up also because sometimes I rather be no where else but my bed, and also at times I feel like my motivation is very low. Of course it doesn’t last for too long because I have to shake that off eventually. Getting outside in nature and changing your environment can spark your motivation and inspiration 100%!

2. Find your new (favorite)

What’s your favorite thing to do? I had to start doing things I like to do more. Sometimes I forget about making things about myself more often. It’s okay to make your hobby an habit. It’s okay to at least take one day out the week to have some fun. Like my favorite things to do the most is listening to a uplifting + motivating podcast. It keeps my soul at ease. Make your new favorite, your née routine.

3. Brain Dumping

Having so much on your mind? It’s hard to sleep at night? Your brain feels completely heavy? I definitely get it. Same here. Sometimes we clutter our brains with problems & things that’s not in our control. Can we relieve ourselves from doing so? Of course. What I do when I brain dump is get a note pad, and I write out everything that’s on my mind in order. I light some candles, pour a glass of wine just to get a vibe going, may even play some music. But best believe that pen is going to work.

“ LOOK IN THE MIRROR, YOU ARE THE MOTIVATION ”

-The Fobem 🌝🌚

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XoXo -Seqouia 🌻

Keep good energy flowing

I can say that settling in my own energy has by far been keeping me at an all time high. It’s like I can’t stay stressed for too long, or be overwhelmed. My comfortability & confidence with my soul will not let me break or fall. Once you mastered at becoming comfortable with change, you will see a difference. Sometimes it’s happiness waiting right in your face for you to take action.

Don’t let anyone suck up the good energy you have strived for. Honestly, now days it’s so much i can tolerate from people, so once you bring negative vibes my way I’m instantly cutting you off. Don’t tolerate nothing that’s not supporting your habit of being happy. But remember we make our own choices & decisions. So always be my mindful & true to yourself. Anything pertaining to your self is your responsibility.

Overthinking also can play a part of having low energy. Our minds is very powerful, and sometimes thinking about the wrong things at the wrong time can really make things hard for us mentally. Over-thinkers, overthink every little problem until it becomes bigger and scarier than it actually is and that right there isn’t healthy. Distract your mind purposely by doing things that keep you busy. Like for an example I go to the beach. The beach for me is so peaceful & relaxing, that any little problems I’m facing aren’t even on my mind.

Anyways, keep that good energy flowing & growing.. you got this ✨

XoXo Seqouiab

How I’m manifesting, how you can manifest

I always tell myself I am special, and that I can be anything I want in life as long as I continue to manifest. Manifesting is very much real but only if you put faith in yourself. It’s a lot of times I didn’t have faith, not one bit. And don’t get me wrong, sometimes I still lose that faith. But we aren’t going to go into that because all that is going to change. It’s time to focus on positivity, growth, progression, & maturity. By manifesting your dreams, goals, and wants, it will keep you motivated. Manifest the life you want by guiding your your energy and emotions to shape your own reality. And as long as you stay motivated and you believe in yourself, then manifestations will come to the light. Before I really started having faith in my manifestations I had to watch who I had around me. And here to say that having people with a negative aura is not good for your energy. It’s draining. It’s stressful. It’s a road towards falling behind. Not everyone want to see you shine. Unlock your greatest potential by the power of your mindset. Because one thing about our mind, it controls us.

Get some crystals, light some candles, and manifest 🌞📝💎🔭🙏…..

Also, I am big on crystals. Manifesting with crystals has really worked for me. It’s not about magic, myths, spells, etc. It’s about believing in your manifestations while using positive things that helps.

Keep striving… you got this! I believe in you!

I will be writing more blogs about manifesting as well! Stay tuned!

XoXo Seqouia

The benefits of connecting with yourself + nature

Ever since I’ve been in tuned with myself, things has been a little different. I’ve been connecting with myself & nature. And the benefits of it is amazing, no matter what I go through. Once I mastered on how to focus on myself and to connect with nature, I always notice a drastic change in my life. Some people are shocked on how they see such a different Seqouia, or even how I react to situations now.

I can literally write a book of all the things I have & currently still going through. But it’s no need for a pity party. My #1 goal is (getting through it) we will run through so many obstacles in our lives especially women, because we have it the hardest mentally & physically. So I always kept that in mind.

But the big question is, what is the benefits of connecting with nature?

*Increases creativity

*Keeps emotions in control

*Steady stability

*Improves memory

*Increases gratitude

*Enjoying being out doors

It’s so many ways you can connect with nature such as:

*Taking a walk

*Relaxing by trees (getting that good ole oxygen)

*Find outdoor activities to do in the sun (like painting at the park)

*Meditate outdoors

*Have outdoor drinks (Wine, tea, or coffee)

All these might seem a little cringe, but sometimes the simplest things can be a life changer.

It’s a true fact that our body is supposed to have contact with the earth as much as possible. Mother nature is what keeps us going. We can still do things the natural way. Although humans are spoiled because all the things that were created to make life easier for us.

It’s always room to [ restore – refresh – renew ]

So there you have it. Those are some of the ways you can get outside to ground & connect with nature. Using your creative ways to make space in your day to get outside and have a breather. It takes no time out your day to put yourself first. Your mental health is important. And it’s so many ways to make changes in your life for better.

Xo Xo _Seqouia

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3 Ways I calm my anxiety

If you personally know me, or have read my blogs in the past. Then you definitely know my history of having anxiety. First I was very discreet when it came to having anxiety. Why? I have no clue! But once I noticed that suffering from anxiety was basically the new “norm” because it’s so many others who suffer from it to. I became more comfortable with sharing my issues. I also had to realize that stress plays a big part of anxiety. Learning to identify what anxiety actually is, was very helpful for me.

Here are some things I love to do to help ease my mind or return to a sense of calm:

1. The most important thing to do when I am having a bad day or just feeling anxiety is to literally say in my mind or to silently to myself “This is totally normal. It is absolutely fine for me to be feeling this way or having these feelings. I just need to be light on myself today.” It is normal for emotions to flow naturally and embracing this makes you feel so good. Allowing yourself to feel it all and having empathy for yourself will get you through…

2. When I wake up and can tell right away that I am feeling anxious I will usually rearrange my day to be a tad bit more slow paced then usual. If I have anything important to do I try rescheduling for another day. Usually when I put everything on pause it instantly makes me feel more calm. And me being this way when it comes to not being able to make it somewhere due to personal issues makes me more understanding when someone has to cancel plans or reschedule on me, especially knowing it might make their day feel a lot easier.

3. Doing my hobbies before bed has been amazing and relaxing for my mind. I’m an big over thinker and at night my mind races with situations I’ve been through or wondering what others are thinking. Getting all cozy, making my kid’s snacks, reading a book, listening to a relaxing podcast, bullet journal, looking up business ideas, anything! It is so mindless and I have been able to have such fulfilling nights which leads to better sleep for me.

These are the three things that keeps me calm when my anxiety is kicking in…. What keeps you calm? Let me know I would love to hear yours!

See you soon on the next blog

XoXo The Fobem 🍃

Change your mindset, and you will win

All my life I have always been an over thinker. I also even jumped into the negative side as well at some point in my life. I didn’t really have faith or believe in myself like I should’ve. Which makes a lot of since why today I go hard for myself more than anyone. I never used my past on the reason why I can’t make changes, and for that particular reason, I believe that’s the whole point of why I am now so strong. Building confidence takes time when you never really had it, so I always paced myself and knew that some day I will get there and be just as confident and brave like others. Especially being a person whom always fed into negativity.

So my message to whoever that is reading this. I want you to know, no matter what you go through in life, you will get through it. Some people battles might be a little more challenging but you can still get through it. It all starts off with the mind first. Remember our minds control everything about us, we think about everything before we even do it.

Everyday you wake up, you should be thinking positive. When you go to sleep you should be thinking positive. Any company around you, should be positive. You should make sure your aura at all times is at peace. Peace plays a big part as well in our daily lives. As long as you know who you are, and what you need to work on as a person, a mom, a father, a friend, a lover, that’s what matters. You acknowledging your flaws and knowing that it’s things you will work on to become a better version of yourself.

You got this.. You will win… You will be happier.. You will be stronger… You will be dedicated…

Don’t be afraid of change, because change is definitely not afraid of you. As humans we are designed to go through things and to figure ourselves out. Sometimes we have to find ourselves the hard way and it’s totally ok. Be patient and protect your mind, body, & soul, while you are transitioning to a new person, with new goals, and new manifestations.

1. Restart

2. Refresh

3. Renew

Once again. YOU GOT THIS!!!

Thanks all, have a good day/night from my side of earth!

A couple gifts i discovered i had

Hey everyone!! Welcome to The Fobem Blog if your new. I hope your day/night is going well. Sending out love & healing from my side of the world.

So I have discovered gifts about myself. And it’s honestly crazy because i kind of noticed little things about me, but i never really got into my own spirituality until last year during Covid. With this gift i noticed that i am very Intuitive, and that allows me to read people before they even open up there mouth. It’s scary sometimes, because normally what i predict about that person it always becomes true. That right there would always leave me lost for words, because it’s like wow girl how did you even figure this person out?! Also, i’m like a energy detector. Someone can walk in the room, and it’s like whether the energy is good or bad, I soak it in and i can feel it strongly. If it’s bad, I will more than likely be quiet and not say too many words. One thing about me, if I don’t like your vibe or feel like your not good energy i will not fake it at all. My silence pretty much will sum up everything. If i love your energy, you get the best out of me.

I can truly say it’s a blessing to be able to be intuitive, because it’s protecting myself, and sparing my feelings. Even with dating, I can tell if someone is being genuine or they are completely no good for my soul. So yes, being intuitive is definitely a gift. And i am more than certain it’s others out there with the same gift as me.

Okay, now with this gift i realized a lot of people love venting to me. And when they vent to me, it’s like i already knew how a situation they were in was going to turn out or i was semi close to knowing. How? I don’t have an idea. So it’s like i instantly connect with them, and i give them really good advice. I noticed that the advice i give is always valid, and I make people feel really secure and i love it. Healing those, who needs to be healed always makes me rewind back to me crying out for help and wishing people could’ve done the same for me, or maybe i just didn’t connect to people like how they connected with me i’m not sure. But these two gifts i’ve noticed i have, is changing a lot about myself. All though i might step back into my ways but suddenly i been more on the positive side then anything. And positive is always good.

That is all, felt like sharing this because it’s important to me. And whom ever reads my blogs are also important to me. So sharing this definitely made me feel so much more relieved. If you have a gift please share it, I would love to see some of you’ll gifts you discovered. Don’t let anyone make you feel as if your making things up or it’s not true, only you know the real and know what goes on within yourself. But anyways, see you soon on the next blog!

XoXo

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4 Ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love

Now days self-love has been mentioned a lot more. But let’s admit that learning to love yourself is one of the most powerful and important things you can do in life. While it’s also important to love yourself, we tend to find that area of self-love a mental block. When you practice self-love, we cultivate a healthy personal bond with ourselves and become our own bestfriend.

Here are 4ways you can start practicing habits of choosing self-love:

ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR STRENGTHS

When was the last time have you acknowledged your strengths? When was was the last time have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said things you like about yourself? Make a list of those things, write it down, read it daily until it permanently sticks to your brain. Treat this list like it’s your own personal daily reminder.

TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS

What are your needs? Write down a list of your needs and take action. Sometimes we are quick to help others with there needs and not put ours first. It’s ok, you just have a heart of gold. But it’s ok to take time out for yourself and start telling people no.

END THE HABIT OF HATING WHO YOU ARE

Remember confidence is key. You tearing yourself down is what’s stopping you from prospering. Have confidence in yourself in every aspect. Let’s work on loving the thought of who you are because no matter what there is no one in this world like you and that’s what makes you unique.

MAKE YOUR BODY HAPPY

When learning to love ourselves we focus plenty of time and attention on our bodies. And how we feel inside our bodies affects how we feel outside of our bodies. You definitely want your body to feel loved and not disconnected. So it’s very important that part of your self-love routine you do things that make you feel great internally.

6 TIPS ON HOW TO GET OVER HIM: BEAT THE HEART-BREAK

HOW TO GET OVER HIM: BEAT THE HEART-BREAK

#ForTheLadies

Sometimes relationships can take a toll on you. Trust me i know. It has with me, and when i say it has broke me down to the point where ill cry everyday of the week, every night before bed, and it drove me to numerous headaches. So i definitely can relate to a lot of women out there who is suffering or suffered from heart break. And of course there will be people telling you “It’s going to be okay, don’t cry” “Forget him” “You deserve better”. Sometimes we don’t take there advice right away because we don’t feel it’s enough.

I remember i use to always say i’m done, and will wake up feeling so different and relieved, but deep down it’s this little piece of me that some how kept me thinking of him. That’s when i knew i wasn’t officially over him. And it’s a feeling that was there for so long that i didn’t even know how to get rid of it. That’s the most fucked up feeling ever!

When i realized that nothing wasn’t enough, I knew right then and there that i had to figure out how to get out, like “literally” “GET THE HELL OUT!”….

I’m sure there is a lot of other women out there that has these same feelings as me or had them. But what’s so cold is that, women now days don’t uplift or support one another any more. So many women are in competition and always want to tease other women for getting played or hurt. WHY?!…. I can’t even answer that but if you have the answer to it please let me know!

Honestly i can admit, that a lot of women in my generation is becoming more and more weak. It sounds mean, but i am just being honest. Women are selling their body, talking down on themselves, not knowing their worth, giving up on their careers, cutting off there friends & families, and doing so much all for MEN!. Now i am not speaking for every woman, but it is a lot of women that are doing this. It breaks my heart because men take advantage of this and sometimes we don’t see it because we are blinded by love, and that’s not even really love. We think we are in love, but we are really just trapped at the moment and can’t find our way out because we can’t see ourselves without them or don’t want no one else to have them. The world is pretty fucked! and everyday it is becoming worse.

But something has to be done. Women need to fight for there strength. It’s time to strive more harder to be stronger and to never experience the feeling of pain again. Yea… it sounds typical, and definitely sounds too good to be true. But how much longer are we going to continue to let men put us through heart break? How much longer will we continue to let men take our woman hood away, and our pride?

Some women like myself always thought revenge was the best route, and hurting them back. I realize that’s not worth it. You can make them hurt more in so many other ways then being cruel & revengeful.

Here are 6 tips that may can help you with beating heartbreak:

#1 FIND THE PROBLEM (Write it down)

Figure out why exactly you can’t get over that person. What is holding you back? Why do you feel you can’t let go? Write down these questions down and answer them. That will kind of get you an outlook on everything.

#2 PROS VS CONS

Write the good, and the bad. If their are more cons, then you should know what needs to be done. Every time the bad outweigh the good then it’s NO GOOD! That’s already a red light that your relationship is pretty much done.

#3 SILENCE

When you kill someone off with silence, that get to them more than anything. Sometimes you have to ignore your way out of the problem because once it’s already toxic, it is unrepairable. I’m not saying that some toxic relationships don’t change, but the ones that don’t change can not be FIXED! And a lot of people fail to realize that. You want to show someone better than you can tell them after all the months/years you been crying for there help, love, and sorrow? Go straight mute on that ass! 

#4 FIND HAPPINESS

Find what makes you happy. Sometimes you don’t realize what brings happiness to your life anymore because you focus more on making your significant other who isn’t making you happy at all. Experience new things, try things you have always wanted to do but haven’t. Stop holding back and see what’s out there besides an relationship that can fulfill your needs.

#5 TRY THERAPY

Therapy can possibly help. Sometimes you need someone to dig deep through the mind and can really tell you your problem. It’s a therapist job to heal your mind & soul, and help you look at life differently. I have tried therapy before, and i wish i never stopped. Definitely on my list to start back going again. I can tell you i am a lot more stronger now then i was in the past. So yes, it can help you.

#6 ONE LAST LETTER (Release all the pain)

This is another way i feel that is really helpful. You don’t want to physically talk to that person because if you do, either they will ignore you or cut you off? Well write they ass a letter! Sometimes writing can really ease the pain because you don’t have to worry about talking to that person and feel like your talking to casper. Men have away of making women feel (DUMB), and that get to us badly. What i mean is, men will ignore you, put on there earphones while you are talking to them, walk away, and so much other rude shit! So some way some how they have to see how you feel right? That’s why i said write it out, seal it up, and either mail it to them, or drop it off them. When your done writing your letter, go to a quiet place, and let it out! Cry, scream, shout, and just release all the negative & bad energy out your body/soul. Let that be your last!

5 Toxic morning habits to give up in the morning

Honestly i suffer from insomnia, and have been suffering from insomnia since i was an teenager. So transitioning my life into being a morning person has really been difficult for me. I really do not like mornings when it comes to handling things, & at a point of time i would be really sluggish. But i did realize that mornings are definitely more productive, healthier, & much easier to maintain. When you get up in the morning, you can run your errands, cook a good breakfast, go for a fresh walk, go to work and be done for the rest of your day & i can go on. So getting up early has definitely been a priority for me. Now, If you want to improve your life for a happier, healthier and more productive lifestyle then stop doing these 5 toxic morning habits immediately.

  1. Waking up late: Truthfully, if you are continually waking up LATE, ask yourself where did time go? Exactly! too far. Your day is pretty much up because either you keep turning that alarm off, your not really caring about getting up, or your just being pure out lazy. Wake up early so you can get prepared for a much successful day. But make your first hour, your self care time. The first hour after waking up must be specifically for nurturing yourself. Your growth, your happiness and mental health all plays part of a start of a new day.
  2. Checking social media first thing in the morning: This is an epic fail! I had this problem bad. My phone was the first thing i thought about when i woke up, and i had to fix that issue asap! You must never start your day checking your phone and scrolling through Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. And truthfully this small habit affects our mood and our entire day if you think about it. That’s how much social media has an affect on us. Social media is a big distraction and can have you out here missing out on the importance things of life. When i’m distracted i feel like i have an heavy burdened on me & it’s definitely not a good feeling. Try turning your phone off before bed and not powering it back on.No excuses!
  3. Not getting natural light & fresh air flowing: Get some natural light and air after waking up. We are human beings, so nature is us 100 %. Also, once all the windows are opened and it’s fresh air & light coming into your home, you began to start feeling energized. Wake up & open up!
  4. Not drinking your herbal teas: Drink some good ole organic green tea every morning. Green tea is good for the body. Green tea improves brain function & protects the brain from aging & more.
  5. Not sitting in peace: Stop having morning chats, use your mornings on focusing purely only on you. Having those talks in the am only stall out time then you will look out & your morning has been wasted.

Hope these 5 steps helped or gave you an idea on getting rid of toxic habits. Don’t forget to head to my other blogs and check them out 😊.

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25 spiritual affirmations

Hello Fobem tribe! Hope you all are having a wonderful day!

Need a good ole spiritual uplift? These spiritual affirmations help support you in acknowledging your true divine self. When exhaling these affirmations into your daily spiritual practice, they help you develop your skills in staying in tune with your spirituality soul. Affirmations also help you replace negative thought patterns with positive ones. As you continuously work with them, they help change your thinking & understanding which is something we all need.

1. Now is the time for my good.

2. I excel at the perfect living of Life.

3. I put my life in the hands of Infinite Love and Divine Wisdom.

4. I see nothing but me.

5. I am now surrounded by the divine, embraced and cherished, nurtured and protected.

6. I am perfectly blessed and I am a perfect blessing for the world.

7. I trust and respect my body’s wisdom.

8. I put myself, my health, and healing above everything. I strive to live a good life.

9. I am in charge of my pain and understand the needs of my body.

10. Happiness is the music of my body.

11. I am filled with positive energy.

12. I am accepting and know how to take care of myself.

13. I have opened my heart to love again.

14. Love is my priority, not hate.

15. No matter how hard life gets, I’m going to still prosper.

16. My choice is to happy.

17. I breathe in peaceful energy, I breathe out unwanted energy.

18. I voice my truth.

19. I voice my intuitions.

20. I have a purpose, so I need to fulfill it.

21. I was created to be uniquely and I see it every day.

22. I love everything who made me who I am today.

23. My soul is cheerful.

24. I am gifted to heal others.

25. I am gifted with the universes love, strength, & wholeness.

Simple Facts

In this world of pain, stress, and tensions the power of healing is unmatched. We as humans deal with so much on our universe. We encounter situations when our emotions, anxiety, & curiosity fill our minds. To receive that inner peace through those challenges, using healing statements is definitely the main importance that can help. Utilizing these affirmations to pin point our self conscious minds, is to act on by experiencing the peace that we need in our lives.

PSA:

I am not a mental health professional, but i discuss my past to help those who are suffering from anxiety like i did. I am here to give those who suffer from any kind of mental health issues tips, and advise them on moving forward. You have permission to screenshot my articles or bookmark them for motivation & healing support. Thank you for those who took their time out to read. Thanks!