Hitting your late 20’s? Make the rest of your 20’s a year of self-discovery.

Now that I’m 28 going on 29 in December, I just realized that I started late when entering in to the entrepreneur world. At age of 27 is when I started to think like wow I’m ready to be wealthy. And truthfully I’m sure other mid & late 20 year olds know that this is the most hardest time in our lives. Why? Because we are finally in adult hood and we are experiencing so much responsibilities. Bills, rent, gas, children, school, work, all of those things put pressure on us.

I was stressing more than actually finding myself and really trying to figure out my next step in life. One day I just woke up feeling different, feeling like I need & want more, feeling like this isn’t for me. It’s a honor to be comfortable with who you are, but at times it wasn’t because I was thinking that people will judge me for just figuring out what I actually want to do in life. So now I know I need to fight off any bad spirits that’s trying to bring me down and stop me from moving forward in life.

Our 20’s should be a year of self-discovery. Try different things until you find what you really like and want. No matter if it’s with someone, or by yourself. There’s nothing wrong going on a journey by your lonesome. Sometimes even relationships can be a distraction, and I wish i knew this then instead of now, but hey life is set up to learn and discover.

When I look back I realized how irresponsible I was, I couldn’t save money for shit, and I was so quick to spend. It’s a time in life where you have to stop buying all that expensive shit when you can save that money for your future success. Now that I’m on a journey for financial freedom and independency Starting now, I been brainstorming and figuring out a plan to build & become wealthy. My mind is already set to become a millionaire 1 day, and I’ll never change that or settle.

I decided late in life that I want to become a blogger. So, I started a blog Sixteen Pages. It has been two years, this is my anniversary blogging month. I always enjoyed writing, being expressive, sharing good advice, and discussing important topics, so I knew blogging was going to be something I’ll enjoy. And It was.

So now I listen to entrepreneurial, money making, and uplifting podcast on Anchor, another one called β€œpodcasts” that came with my iPhone, and a couple more other podcast platforms. Listening to podcast has motivated me in so many ways. I’ve changed my thoughts about sex, relationships, and money. I now have a better sense that anything is possible with faith.

At first I was more afraid then happy to pursue my dreams, now I’m ready. I am not afraid to travel now, I am not afraid to take my brand to the next level, I am not afraid to quit my 9-5 so I can start my adventurous lifestyle while blogging. I am ready to travel out the country to learn, explore, meet new people, promote my brand, and to build my happiness.

In the path of transitioning into the new you, you might lose people on your way. But sometimes I honestly feel β€œif I lose you, that means you were never meant to be in my life.” You will lose & meet new people, it’s possible.

Make sure you focus on self care. Self care has been very momentum in the past few years. Back then I didn’t understand the concept of self care. Self care involves your health, mental health, appearance, etc. Just taking care of you and making sure you are good first is self care. That’s my motto now and my motto walking into 2020.

Be responsible. Sometimes when we get to a certain age, we start to be unorganized, and that is definitely not good especially if you are stepping into the entrepreneurial life. I admit myself that I am not responsible at times and I slip up. And I learned my lesson, like a big lesson. I remember I didn’t plan out my week for paying off bills, and end up doing something totally different and was broke by the end of the week. I went without gas, small meals, and barely no gas to get work. β€œCan I say the struggle was real?” I definitely don’t want to go through that again. Be responsible. Sometimes when we get to a certain age, we start to be unorganized, and that is definitely not good especially if you are stepping into the entrepreneurial life. I admit myself that I am not responsible at times and I slip up. And I learned my lesson, like a big lesson. I remember I didn’t plan out my week for paying off bills, and end up doing something totally different and was broke by the end of the week. I went without gas, small meals, and barely gas to get work. β€œCan I say the struggle was real?” I definitely don’t want to go through that again. That’s why now I created me a planner on Canva. There is an app to by the way. Using a planner has really helped me be more responsible, on time, and way more organized.

If I knew what I know now I’ll tell my younger self to be confident, independent, don’t give up, and focus on what you want and go for it!

β€œBelieve in yourself, know your worth, and focus on positivity & less negativity.”

Seqouiab

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If you knew what you know now, what would you tell your younger self? Drop down in the comments I’ll love to hear all of you responses 😊

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7 bomb tips to up your blog with social media

Let’s be super honest here, creating just a blog can be super confusing sometimes, and might have nights where you end up having a huge ass migraine! Well sometimes it’s easy said then done that when you post content you want to make sure you target the right audience. π‘Ίπ’π’„π’Šπ’‚π’ π’Žπ’†π’…π’Šπ’‚ π’Šπ’” π’“π’†π’‚π’π’π’š 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒐 π’Žπ’‚π’Œπ’† 𝒕𝒉𝒆 π’Žπ’π’π’†π’š π’šπ’π’– π’˜π’‚π’π’• π’˜π’‰π’†π’ π’Šπ’• π’„π’π’Žπ’†π’” 𝒕𝒐 π’ƒπ’π’π’ˆπ’ˆπ’Šπ’π’ˆ, 𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒖𝒓, π’‘π’–π’ƒπ’π’Šπ’„ π’‡π’Šπ’ˆπ’–π’“π’†, π’”π’π’„π’Šπ’‚π’ π’Žπ’†π’…π’Šπ’‚ π’”π’†π’π’”π’‚π’•π’Šπ’π’/π’Žπ’π’…π’†π’, 𝒐𝒓 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 π’˜π’‚π’π’• 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆. Sometimes it can be hard, but once you actually start figuring out different tricks & tips on how to build, it definitely will work. Social media does play a big part of building your blog but you have to make sure you do it the right way! I will give you 7 tips on how.

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Don’t use your personal social media account to promote your blogs #MakeAnewAccount

When you you use your main social media account sometimes it defeats the purpose. “My opinion!” I think it is more valuable when you make an account specifically for your blogs. You can be able to explain better in detail, have debates, and all around target the main point of whatever blog you just published. You want to make sure your audience be able to understand, relate, & focus just on that blog, so you can be able to bring them to visit your website. It’s all about posting good content & giving your readers more of a reason to enjoy your content as well.

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Use your creativity

Being creative is something that comes natural regardless. Sometimes a lot of people feel they aren’t creative, but don’t understand that everyone is in there own way. Find different things to post on your social media that will bring attention to your social media. Host a giveaway, have a poll on your Instagram story, or go live and interact with others.

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Make videos on (Insta story, Insta post, Igtv)

When you make videos, it just helps brings more audience, and also a good way to show your authentic self. Let people get to know your personality, and be able to visually see you. Sometimes by just posting pictures aren’t just enough. Talk about your upcoming blogs, what do your readers want you to blog about next, or just whatever that comes to mind. You are the host remember that, so think of some of your good skills you have, and put them to use. The more you stay active, the easier it will get to start getting people to notice you.

Be consistent with your followers

Yes, consistency is the key. When using social media, your social skills are important. People adapt to those who are communicative & open. Make sure you reply to comments, & DM’s, because that’s what your audience would like. No need to act sassy and ignore those who are asking a simple question, or just want to shoot you some advice. Not even that, but what if a company is interested in working wit you and like your content. You don’t want to pass up good opportunities.

Post daily

Stay active by posting everyday. Even if it’s a simple quote, picture, or just something that you want to discuss. Especially until you build your social media following up, eventually you can make a routine on what days you post, but save that when you elevate & actually have a good amount of following.

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High Quality Photos

Photos is another way to bring a large audience. Make sure you download good photo editing apps like Photoshop ExpressPicsArt, and many more. Even myself can admit that when i see awesome photos it brings my attention right away. Sometimes you have to think as if it was you who will be interested.

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Use HASHTAGS!

Hashtags is another way to build up your following, actually a quick way. There are billions of users who use hashtags, be one of them. Make sure you use the right hashtags and also switch them up. Sometimes using the exact same hashtags for months & months, will make it hard to get your page noticed. So yes use hashtags! You can search up viral hashtags on google of course.

I hope these tips can help, they definitely helped me in so many ways. Screenshot so you can have them in your phone. 

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8 SELF-CARE HABITS FOR THE MIND

As humans we have to cure our minds & focus on self-care first. We tend to focus more on what’s not important then what’s actually important.

Self-care is doing what needs to be done, and balancing all goals you want to achieve in life. Self-care also nourishes your spirit and pushes you to strive hard everyday.

If you don’t take care of yourself or to harsh on your body you will become overwhelmed. That’s why I’ve pulled together 8 SELF-CARE HABITS FOR THE MIND for you!!

1. Take time off. Striving hard everyday is really important because the whole point is to achieve your goals, but sometimes it becomes tiring & a issue.

 

2. Find some quiet time.  Sometimes our lives are so busy we don’t never have time for peace and quiet.

 

3. Positive self-talk. Often times, you are your own worst critic.  That little voice at the back of your head can get real disgusting.

4. Get Bodywork. Our bodies store emotional tension in ways that we don’t even realize or notice, and bodywork allows us to release that built up tension.

5. Spend Time in Nature. Spending time in nature can actually be healthy for you, such as lowering your stress hormone levels. Get outside. Go explore, hit the beach, go hiking. Enjoy hearing the birds and the sound of waterfalls, enjoy our beautiful nature.

6. Eliminate Toxicity. Eliminate your amount of time you spend in negative situations or people that drain or leave you feeling stressed & over the top.

Always surround yourself around care, love, & positive energy.

7. Feed Your Mind. As a human, of course we are here to grow, learn, and elevate. Learning something new becomes interesting for us humans because it keeps our lives going and more interesting.

Try reading a new book, listening to a podcast, or even go to a museum.

8. Get Creative. Use your creative skills and put them to use. We all have a creative side, sometimes some of us just don’t know exactly what it is. When I say creative I don’t necessarily mean you have to be artistically creative. For an example, I like to take pictures, also I like to dress up, so I will dress up and take multiple photos and edit them, that’s part of my creativity gift. I was always told I take nice photos of myself.

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25 Journal Prompts For Deeper Self-Discovery & Self-Knowledge

Journaling has plenty of benefits that can help with your daily lifestyle.

It clears your mind, by de-cluttering it, help you reach goals, increase creativity, help achieve goals, and improves your communication skills.

To deepen your self-discovery, this is definitely a great tool to help with that.

Pick a prompt that speaks to you and answer them with truthful & authentic answers. You might just be shocked at what you might reveal!

Let’s get to it…

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  1. Over the past 2 years i grown to be…
  2. Something I’d like to achieve one day is…
  3. What people mostly say about me, is that…
  4. What I’m most thankful for is…

  5. My #1 goal for the new year is…
  6. The quality i admire the most is…
  7. One thing i always wished for…
  8. The way i gained self-love…
  9. One thing i’ll never forget _________, because…
  10. My all time favorite book that i will reread is _________, because…
  11. The three things i love about myself is…
  12. If I could be a go-to person for anything, it would be…
  13. What is your greatest strength? Describe a time this strength served you well.
  14. What physical characteristics are you most self-conscious about? How could you make peace with those?
  15. Name a movie that spoke to you on a personal level. Why?
  16. You just spent one day home alone. How are you feeling?
  17. To show someone you love them, are you likely to use actions, send a text, are you likely to use words, or another method?
  18. What does a successful look like to you?
  19. What is the best piece of advice you given to someone?
  20. Where do you picture yourself at in the next year or so. Why?
  21. What would you say is your biggest strength?
  22. What are you most fear of?. Why?
  23. What do you consider to be your most challenging flaw of all time?
  24. If you have a problem, who are you likely to go to?
  25. Your to-do list this week is overwhelming. Do you ask for help or give up sleep?

Check out my other journal prompts:

https://sixteenpages.com/2019/08/06/50-journal-prompts-for-self-discovery-and-self-reflection/

https://sixteenpages.com/2019/07/27/self-love-writing-prompts/

Please check out my other blogs here: https://sixteenpages.com/home-2/

Want to collaborate feel free to go here: https://sixteenpages.com/business-inquires/

Have any questions or want to chat? Go here: https://sixteenpages.com/free-writing/

Interested into beauty & glowing skin products? I sell lip gloss, glowing skin products, and more, and I’ll also be launching more products Tuesday 9/24. Just go here: https://sixteenkisses.com

Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one?: Expressions Part 1

This Blog is me opening up, and expressing myself about my life. I am focusing on opening about me more and giving out πŸ’― my authentic self, pure love & honesty.

Have you had a point in time in your life when you felt that you didn’t have no one? You felt stuck, lost, and just wanted to give up. You just feel a strong pain in your stomach that want leave, and you feel useless and full of worry…

Life can really suck at times, because once you become an adult and your life didn’t turn out how you visioned it when you were 16 or even 18, so you just completely feel like all the dreams, visions, and plans you had was a big waste.

You have all these people thinking your so spoiled, or you just live such a happy life, and your perfectly fine….

Well this is me, I am HER. I have been through so much. Sometimes as much as i try to hide it, it still affects me until this day now. But, I can say i am a lot stronger.

Life can just be a hassle at times. It’s like your fighting yourself to be better and not give up on YOU. But, sometimes it’s something that is trying to pull you back from happiness. It can be for multiple reasons. The energy around you, the way you think on a daily, or just the lifestyle you still live that you know that you need to change it. I honestly feel that has always been my problem, “STICKING TO THE SAME LIFESTYLE.”

Sometimes partying, drinking a lot, dealing with toxic people, can make it hard for better life changes. I didn’t take that into consideration, and i still kind of don’t until this day now. Why?… Because it’s hard to just let people go and i know it can turn into a big mess. But of course my confused self ask myself all the time “Seqouia, why do you even care?”

And of course, I really don’t even have an accurate answer for myself. I feel like my life is based on bunch of confusion. I’m tired of waking up angry, I want to wake up with full of happiness. Although i don’t just wake up mad everyday, but it does happens often.

I had to really sit in have self-talks to figure out what can i do to stop feeling the way i feel. How can i change things without making it my problem to stress about it, and not let it bother me from becoming a better version of me? What can i do to make myself, “SEQOUIA” smile more instead of everyone else?

Sometimes i know feelings within yourself can be temporary just because things aren’t really going right at the time. But honestly, who really wants to even be sometimes “depressed.” 

NOT ME!… AT ALL!!

But anyways, these feelings can’t change on its own right? I would have to be the one to fix these issues. As a human of course we don’t feel it’s that easy. We feel that money can change a lot of stress. And sad to say, it’s true for most people! I am one of those people by the way. I will not sugar coat anything i never do. Once i have money in my presence i am totally fine. I make sure i take pre-cautions when it comes to money though, and i am glad i do. One thing about me, although i love money and i may think of other quick ways to make money i never act on my actions, I continue to keep working my damn ass off and do what i have to do.

Over time which is recently, I say about a total of 5 months ago. A little have changed but a lot more needs to still be fixed. Which i am kind of excited about. I mean can’t no one change over night right? It takes time to become a strong WOMAN/MAN, when you have always been weak 1/2 of your life. I always tell myself it’s okay to cry because soon all these sad tears will be tears of joy. Soon all my worries will be complete. That’s the mindset you have to have. You have to know that no matter how you are feeling today, tomorrow, or even next week, those feelings will go away.

I learned over the last few months to be passionate to myself, and to go with the flow. Over time things will be different. Whoever you second thought about being in your life eventually will drift away, all the finance issues you been having will do a full 360, the way you been living will change, and your struggles will no longer be a struggle any more. Sometimes we have to talk things into existence, and keep a positive mindset. I had to learn the hard way, and i mean the HARD WAY. I had to work on being more positive and grateful that i am living pretty okay, because it’s people out there that don’t have a roof over there head and actually need help.

I know i have a lot of goals i would love to achieve but my main goal is “HAPPINESS.” Being happy is more important to me then anything. Because without happiness your life will never feel complete.

I am glad that lately i have been opening up more about myself so my readers can actually get to know me more. I really post blogs to uplift and motivate others, but now I feel the need to just open more to the world, so people can actually feel they know me through words. I look at anyone who is reading my blogs as a friend. Not a “fan or supporter.” You never know who can relate to your lifestyle, and you never know how many people might actually would love to get to know you and learn you.

Opening up and being your authentic self is always a good look and build trust with others. I can write a book about my life and the things I been & go through. That’s why I am sharing to the world and so thankful for god steering me in the direction of becoming a blogger. Blogging is my reliever, my medicine, my go to, and my happiness.

Anyways if you can relate to this blog drop a comment telling a little about yourself that you would like to fix or you can just email it to me 😊.

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How I kept Losing myself to finally gaining myself back and keeping it that way

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I’m sure a lot of people can relate…

In out through my life, I have lost myself, and gained myself back again. Meaning, I have gave up so many times, then i started to be myself again but better.

I definitely didn’t know why, but i do know a lot of millennials, mid 20’s, and late 20’s, go through different changes. Which i can say that can be part of my transition because i am 28.

A lot of women go through a lot of ” Hormonal imbalances”. Which can affect us mentally, and we begin to have mood swings, and so much more. don’t want to get to personal about it. but my point is that, as a woman we go through so many changes, have to deal with so many personal things, and it’s stressful. BEYOND IT.

Dealing with mental health growing up, really had me losing myself. Not loving myself, not caring for myself, and just putting others before me. People use to ask me, “Why are you looking so angry?” and, i was definitely was intrigued by that question, because i didn’t know why people always ask that and i was always curious why. But i figured it out, I had an automatic mean mug smh….

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People said i never had a smile on myself, I always looked angry. And that isn’t good at all. I really started to realize that all around i am wasn’t happy, because people are actually seeing it in my facial expressions. But, truth be told, I didn’t mind it after a while. I was still angry.

I was disappointed within myself. One of the reasons why is because I didn’t graduate on time, not because i didn’t know the work, I just was so stuck into my feelings that i didn’t even knock out 15 credits. Don’t judge me, yes only 15 CREDITS!. That’s all i needed, and I let my pride get the best of me. So, I went to go finish, and I thought i was happy about it and i still wasn’t. I had a kid, and felt that i was to old, and I waited to long to go back. It’s sad that i was ungrateful instead of blessed. Close people around whispered, judged me, and talked about me behind my back because i didn’t graduate on time. And it’s the truth. I knew it, and yes it hurts badly. But, people knew deep down i had an gift, and that behind that angry face it’s a Smart Black Woman. I think people were intimidated by my strong attitude, and no matter how i feel about myself, I was always independent and knew what i was talking about. But i believe people mistaken me to be dumb, because of the “missing 15 credits.” People used that as a weapon against me. So when i decided to go back in finish i did it silently for my own happiness. I knew that this school issue was really one of my weaknesses and one of the reasons why i am not happy.

Dealing with the TOXIC. Toxic played a big part in my life. Arguing with family members, arguing & fighting with my significant other, down talking myself. All that is consider toxic. Not only that it’s toxic, It’s stressful. On top of that, I still was not happy. My level of happiness was up and down.

As I got older, I have realized that i was surrounded around people i shouldn’t surround myself with. I was dealing with people i had no business dealing with. People who do not support you, or want to see you win, is a red flag to NO GOOD! No i am not innocent but growing up remember when your parents always say “Two wrongs don’t make it right!” It’s the truth!

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It takes time to be the best version of yourself, so don’t give up fighting for your confidence. You are beautiful…..”

 

It’s hard to change being around a lot of people who is just like you but worst. And every time you want to change you are dealing with other people negativity, or it’s rubbing off on you. Sometimes you have to stop prolonging these relationships with friends & families or even with your partner, if it’s not bringing any happiness to your life.

I had to realize that life isn’t always suppose to be peaches & cream. At any moment in life you can lose everything, but how will you react to it? Continuously act out on everyone or be strong and move forward. Failure is not an option because it will happen, but you have to understand that.

I started to have insecurities. But that is something i kept to myself for a while. I never showed it, and felt no reason to. It wasn’t that I was insecure in my looks necessarily, but everything else about me I was disappointed in. Instead of complimenting myself I rather compliment others and make them feel good, I really don’t know why, but seeing other people happy always made me feel better. And I been that way for a while until I came to a realization that I need to focus on self-care & self-love. I had to stop loving others more then I loved myself.

When I finally found myself, and figured out who I am and what I want in life I went for it. I decided I wanted to become a blogger & entrepreneur and guess what? I made it happen. I might have ups & downs and things might not made it to where I want it to you, but it’s the principle that I am striving to be the best that I can be and reach my top goal.

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Even though I admit all the time, I LOST MYSELF. But, it’s always time to gain your self again. It’s okay if you fell off a little, but pick up where you left and keep going. Can’t no one interfere what you got going on, only if you let them, SO DON’T!

Moral of the story is, I made this blog to uplift and motivate others that you can go through the hardest time in your life and it’s okay. But, don’t let that become an habit. Just get up and work on you, better you, love you, support you, and keep being determined to achieve your goals. Use your past as a way out the hold on on your way to success.

YOU GOT THIS!!!!

 

 

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Self-Love Writing Prompts

Self-love is well-being & happiness. Loving yourself doesn’t mean to be selfish, It is nourishing yourself and taking care of your emotional and spiritual needs. Self-love also is to be honest with yourself, how you feel about yourself, and taking care of yourself. Don’t have standards to high but also don’t have standards to low, and to not treat & talk to your self in a negative way. Journaling is an great way to start your self-love journey. It is often much easier to be completely honest when you are the only one who will see it.

Journaling is an helpful way to start your self-love journey. It is often much easier to be completely honest when you are the only one who will see it and look at it as motivation or life changing. Here is a list of 31 Self-love writing prompts, to get you started.

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  1. How would you feel if you truly loved and accepted yourself?
  2. What is your biggest achievement?
  3. What do you love about yourself?
  4. How would you feel if you truly loved and accepted yourself?
  5. How can you start de-cluttering your life?
  6. Describe a time when you sabotaged a good situation for yourself. Explore why you did that
  7. What friendship that you’ve had was the most meaningful?
  8. If you could change anything about yourself what would it be and why?
  9. If I could be friends with anyone in the world I would like to be friends with____ because
  10. 5 things I feel thankful for are __________
  11. If I didn’t have any fear I would ________________
  12. 10 ways i deal with my emotions________________
  13. How can you set better boundaries in your life?
  14. What do you need to forgive yourself for?
  15. What’s one change in your life that you can make for more happiness?
  16. Describe your favorite childhood memory
  17. List 5 different things that make you happy
  18. Write yourself a thank you letter
  19. How do i feel at this moment and why?
  20. Write what you love about yourself
  21. List 6 things you are good at
  22. Write yourself 5 compliments
  23. What does my dream tomorrow look like?
  24. What area of your life do you need help with? Are you able to ask for help?
  25. Do you need to show yourself more compassion?
  26. What one change could you make today which would make you happy?
  27. What brings you peace?
  28. What do you believe you deserve in life? Why do you believe this?
  29. Do you have a thought about yourself that you should let go of but can’t
  30. Do you treat yourself? How does it make you feel?
  31. Do you have a strong belief in your abilities or could you be holding yourself back?

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6 Toxic habits to quit immediately

6 Toxic Habits to Quit Immediately

 

Are you guilty of these toxic habits? Most of the time we fail to realize we can be creating toxic habits everyday. You might be wondering, what makes a toxic habit? To me, a toxic habit is something you do that is continuously provoking you to harm your mental health, daily routines, and just all around interfering your success.

I will admit, I have witnessed some of these habits in the past. Since then, I tried to cut them short out of my life and make them disappear. Here is a list of 6 toxic habits you should quit immediately! 

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1. Not believing in yourself

As i got older, I learned that it is important to your success to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Putting yourself down repeatedly, or always telling yourself “you can’t do it”, chances is that it will become true. Changing your mindset, and actually believing in yourself really can change so much in your life.

 

2. Not letting go of the past

Even myself can admit that i have had trouble not letting go of the past. For some strange reason, I just couldn’t get over it. This is most definitely TOXIC. If we don’t let go of the past, it will haunts our present/future. Just live in the moment, let go of the past, and focus on what’s more important.

 

3. Keeping toxic people in your life 

Honestly, I use to be afraid to remove certain people out my life. Now, it’s a piece of cake for me. I don’t feel selfish putting me first any more, and i also don’t feel bad. Toxic people is like taking a bad drug. NO GOOD. Get rid of the toxic, and don’t let your guilt get in between anything.

 

4. Checking your phone as soon as you wake up

First off, this is a toxic habit. Checking your phone when you first wake up is a problem. Checking your phone as soon as you wake up is a terrible start of the day!  I actually find that when the mornings comes and I don’t check my phone right away, I feel a lot happier and productive. I like to try to start my morning on a positive note, and feeling like i can do other things besides just picking up my phone.

 

4. Comparing yourself to others

I notice that a lot of people have this bad. I even caught myself doing it a few times. It’s definitely another toxic habit. Comparing yourself affects a lot within yourself, like your confidence. Compare yourself to the old you and the new you, and how much you have accomplished.

5. Getting no sleep + Cranky

Getting no sleep is a toxic habit. I have had so many sleepless nights working towards my future and trying to be successful, but it becomes stressful to the point i wake up cranky. Being cranky is also a toxic habit. To prevent this issue, coming up with a solid schedule and getting the proper rest is important.

 

6. Not drinking any water

I am big on drinking water, no matter how unhealthy i am lol, I admit water is my bff. Have you had them days where you are so hot and agitated and all you need is water to cool you down. Well that’s me. If i don’t drink any water especially on a hot day, I am definitely irritated out this world. Which is a toxic habit. So drink your water my loves!

 

 

What toxic habits are you trying to cut out? Let me know in the comments!

How to Manage your Anxiety

 

    Having anxiety is the most terrifying thing to go through, especially when you are alone. A lot of people don’t know how to cope or manage with the symptoms that comes with this mental health issue. Everyone either reacts the same or a little different with there anxiety but at the end of the day it’s still a disorder that anyone can get at any given time. There are so many ways to manage your anxiety. Here i listed a few tips that might can just help.

      Mindfulness:

       Figure out things that will keep your mind occupied. Be the things that keep you at ease. Focus on self-care and taking care of  YOU in all ways you can. Learn to take and do things more slowly, and try not to be such in a rush through your life too much. 

 

       Routine:

           Create a satisfying routine. Anxiety thrives a persistent worry and fear about your everyday lifestyle. I figured out that coming up with a helpful routine helps eliminate a lot of worry & thoughts. 

 

       Communicate:

  Do not be afraid to discuss your issues dealing with anxiety. A lot of people experience it more than what others think, and suffer from it on different levels. Find some one that will be able to help you justify this issue. Help break the problem so you can be able to help others.

 

        Practice Coping Skills:

Figure out ways you can cope with this mental health issues. What helps you from having episodes? Breathing techniques. Taking a walk. Meditation. Yoga. It’s so many things you can do. Figure it out, and stick to it because once you are able to cope with anxiety, then it will be easier for you to start living a more normal lifestyle, without being in fear on what’s going to happen.

 

        Weekly Schedule:

Try scheduling your week ahead of time. But, make sure you stick to it. Switching up will only makes things worse. When something is triggering you to have anxiety sometimes it can be because your nervous, anxious, worried, tired, and you are just confused and furious on what your week look like. So, on that note creating a schedule will help plan things out better for you.

How to stay dedicated to blogging

When i first started blogging, I am going to be honest with you all. It was so confusing. I didn’t technically have a niche, or knew my purpose of even starting a blog. I just knew i liked writing. So, I started to peep out other blogs, which me looking at other blogs is the reason that i even had the idea to start from the first place. Now yes, blogging can be easy as 1,2,3, but when you don’t know exactly what you are doing it can be a little mind blowing. You have to find a niche, figure out what exactly you want to share to the world. I use to consistently ask myself a list of these questions:

  1. Why do i want to become a blogger?
  2.  What do i want to blog about?
  3. What is my niche?
  4. How far do i plan on going with my blog?
  5. How can i make money becoming a blogger?

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These are questions i asked myself. As crazy as it sounds, writing down questions to continue to ask yourself so you can finally have the right answer and make the right choice, can certainly help no doubt! Don’t rush into blogging, but you can always be a step ahead. Even if you haven’t blogged for so long, just stay dedicated and true. If you are determined to succeed in blogging, make blogging your priority and not an hobby.

Look like a pro even if you are a beginner. As a blogger, you want to make sure that your audience always has something worth to read. Having a interesting article brings more attention then you think. Lets be honest, how many people look up “How to’s” all day or “Tips on” in there search engine 24 hours 7 days a week? A lot! Millions of people.

 

TO-DO-LIST

A to-do-list, is definitely important to me, and it should be for you to. Write down a list of topics each week to blog about. So for an example, if you decide to blog every Mon, Tues, Wed, then write a to-do-list, of want you are going to talk about. Trust me, this will make your life so much easier.

 

CONSISTENCY

Consistency is a must. You have to stay consistent when it comes to anything business or something you actually want. Don’t give up and keep striving to be the best you can be. Things will get hard but as long you stay focused on your plan, everything will go just right.

 

ACCEPT FAILURE

You have to accept failure, I know a lot of people don’t take failure fairly, but it’s the honest truth. Failure is only a lesson learned, we learn from our mistakes, we learned when we don’t get something right, but we was suppose to keep going until we get what we are striving for down packed. Sometimes you have to fail before you win!

 

BE AUTHENTIC

Always stay true to yourself and your audience. Honesty is the #1 key to be trusted. When you become a blogger or already a blogger, you want to make sure you grow your audience. Their might be something you went through that someone else went through and they need tips on how to get out over it, and by you going through those tough times you can probably inspire someone else. So continue being yourself, and using your capability to help others, or teach people things they never even had the knowledge of.

 

 

 

If you do everything i listed above, i promise you will stay dedicated. But, you have to want this. You have to be determined to get up and write blogs and promote yourself. You can’t expect for no one to do it for you, at least not now. Remember if you plan on becoming a blogger full time, or making blogging a priority in your life, then don’t look at it as an hobby. Do a lot of research, search up other blogs that have the same niche as you but are more experienced. It’s okay to get ideas and tips from other bloggers. At the end of the day we all have to learn some way. Eventually, you will be able to master at blogging. You will be so immune to it, to the point you will naturally find something to talk about.

 

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Three ways how to rock your goals the rest of 2019

Every year will brings changes, challenges, opportunities, growth. But sometimes, some of us get discouraged and lose out. It was a time in my life where i felt that i will never succeed, and although i might not have told no one how i felt, it use to stop me from achieving my goals. But, eventually you will grow out of that stage and not let that stop you from creating your future. That’s what i did. I got tired of always talking down on myself and not understanding “life”, because when you don’t have a understanding on what’s going on you will never move on.

1. WHAT IS IT THAT’S HOLDING YOU BACK?

No really, what is holding you back? Figure out what’s holding you back and what’s stopping you from moving forward. You can’t achieve anything still dwelling on the past or what’s currently bothering you. Figure out how to let anything negative or stressful in your life. The problem is that “we live in the past” and of course we refuse to move on. We hold on to the past constantly, and fail to take responsibility for our own lives. But, truth be told we are “all messed up in a way”. Everything can’t be picture perfect and everything can’t go how you want it to be, but how can we succeed without putting in no effort?

We should not let our past stop us from creating the future we always dreamed to have. There are many things you might find yourself feeling guilty about but that don’t mean you feel sorry for yourself, just keep going. The past is the past, and your future starts now.

 

 

2. NO MORE EXCUSES

One thing i can say is that everyone including myself have made excuses. We have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves and also stop trying to figure out why is certain things aren’t going the way we want it to. The only way you will deal with circumstances is if you allow your present to enter into your future, for an example you might not have enough (money, help, or no resources), but you can’t let that be the defining problem. Everything you believe yourself to be is a whole combo of what you’ve been through, things like the way you grew up in your home, or what your family taught you. The way people have treated you, or the things you experienced around you while growing up.

Truth be told, you are strong, because you made it here today. No matter how unfair you feel how your life has been, it was the past. Don’t let how far you have come today stop you from going to where you want to be now. Throw those excuses in the trash, let go of the negative thoughts and chase after what you want, even if you have to take baby steps. If you think about it that is how you are preparing for your future. Small changes can make a big difference. I always been taught to discipline myself. Why? Because discipline is strict. That means you are focused, and you aren’t letting nothing or no body get in the way. It’s all about making a change in your day to day habits & choices. The willingness in changing your old habits to new & better ones is by being consistent.

3. FORGIVING YOURSELF

One problem i had growing up was that i never forgave myself & certain people. I had it bad holding grudges, and not letting go. First off, you have to forgive yourself first. And i did so. You can’t live in the past, because if you do, then you will never accomplish anything. We have to start practicing on self-care, and loving ourselves more, because once you love yourself that means nothing in the past will never even exist in your future. We are unwilling to forgive ourselves, but why? Because we get or get put in certain situations and hate ourselves for it. Sometimes just being human we think everything suppose to be perfect, but everything can’t be picture perfect, and sometimes being a perfectionist will not allow us to understand how it feels to grow from certain situations. For an example, say if 4 years ago you never got lucky with a job because you were being picky so now you beat ourselves up about it, hit rock bottom, and lost all you had, then today you have a $20/hr job, got everything you always wanted, and live in a condo. That feeling of success feels amazing! You can’t keep putting yourself down because the choices you make or made, you have to move on from it, look past it, and keep going.

 

LET ME TELL YOU THIS: YOU WILL FAIL “At some point”

But, you will fail to get up and try again, and again until you make it to your destination in life. Sometimes we are wiser than we think, it’s just sometimes we just lose hope, but starting today DON’T. You have the ability to make your own choices, and to erase any thoughts you are having by forgiving yourself and not letting your past affect you in today’s life.

 

 

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5 WAYS TO HAVE A WINNER MINDSET

So i know that a lot of people even myself have had problems with not feeling like ill win. Meaning, not feeling like i’m productive enough, not feeling like i have succeeded enough. Well, sometimes enough is just enough. We have to learn to be dominant, to not have a i’m going to “lose” attitude. Anything is possible, and once i realize that i began to start labeling myself as a winner. Here are 5 ways to have a winner mindset.

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#1 Changing your mindset

In ordinary to have a winner mindset, you have to change your mindset. Of course everybody has their own way how they think & carry themselves, but change is change. All the negative thoughts? let it go. You can’t walk around always being negative if you always want to win. A positive mindset can get you really far in life. Think about all the good things you want to happen in the future, and no matter how much bad luck comes through, or how many times you fail, you have to be strong and move away from what’s holding you back,

 

 

#2 Let go of the toxic

Yes. You read it right, let go of the toxic. Being around toxic surroundings, and just dealing with a toxic person can drain your energy. When your energy is drained that means you will not have strength to win. Toxic also changes your mood. Always being in a bad mood will also make you lose out on more than what you think. Happiness is the key. A happy heart will get your further in life. Don’t be afraid to let go. Not everyone is meant to be in your life. 

 

 

#3 Be Authentic

Being Authentic is the best choice. I say that because when you are truthful, honest, & authentic, you will gain more respect. Especially starting a business or becoming a blogger. People want honesty, bluntness, and some one that is straight forward. 

 

 

#4 Be your self-reminder

Remind yourself about everything that is important. For an example: If you are getting into an altercation, remind yourself to not react. Remind yourself to not lose yourself. Remind yourself to not feed into negativity. Remind yourself that you are a WINNER and that you will not lose. Remind yourself to keep pushing. Moral of the story is, have self talks in your head that will remind you on what is important. 

 

 

#5 Have a plan

Make sure that you have a plan. If you don’t then work towards to having one. Having a plan will have you feeling more established, self sufficient, confident, & successful. When you feel all that is listed above then guess what? You are a WINNER!. I always have plans, even if i change them, brainstorming and planning my near future got me further then what i was, and changed me into a better woman today. It’s best to focus on what makes you happy and what will keep you going. 

 

 

 

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