5 Tips to heal your depression

Hey to all my blog buddies, new blog buddies, and new readers. I have had a hard time with battling depression/anxiety for a while now. And i definitely know that i am not alone when it comes to mental health. It’s so many other people that suffer from anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and it’s sad that a lot of us don’t get recognition as we should. I blog about my anxiety, but not as much as i should, because the simple fact i figured out how to cope with it better. My cope is blogging, mind exercises, self-care, and so much more. I turned my blog into a full lifestyle blog, so i can be more open to connect with others, and just tell it like it is. Now i feel that i need to continuously discuss mental health topics more, because i touch so many people that suffered like me, and not only that i get personal emails from people who actually open up to me about there mental health and want tips on what i do to keep me strong. So, lets get to it, I have 5 tips that can help heal your depression. 

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#1 MAKE LIFE CHANGES:

First thing first, make life changes. I am not going to act as if i’m so perfect and i made so many changes in my life, but i can say i made enough changes that gained me enough faith to make it through out the day without being depressed. Change your health, If you didn’t know, eating unhealthy 24/7 isn’t good. Bad foods increase your stress level, mood swings, and also mess with your weight. We all know excessive weight gain & weight-loss also can put you through an depression. Now i am going to be honest with you, if you aren’t the healthiest like myself, at least take baby steps. I am not the healthiest, but i am working on it, which makes it even better that i am dominant & consistent with trying. Work out. If you aren’t into doing strict work outs, like lifting weights, hiking, or riding a bike. You can actually take a walk for 30 minutes a day. If you don’t want to walk, get on the treadmill for 30 minutes and walk 2.0 mph.

 

#2 HAVE FAITH

A lot of people who suffer from depression, do not have faith in themselves. That is a (true fact). We tend to fear in the society we live in, and not believe that we can succeed in life. That comes with being scared of failure. When you are depressed, you can’t take failure quite frankly. But, what we don’t realize, is that failure comes with life. We are going to fail at some point, and the only thing we can do is keep going. When you are always worried, then it’s hard to accept the fact we didn’t get our way with certain things or situations. You have to learn how to accept failure, and have faith that the next time or the time after that everything will fall into place.

 

#3 BE OPEN TO NEW OPPORTUNITIES/IDEAS

I know when you are depressed it’s hard to move on to the next chapter in your life because we are always so stuck into the past and what’s current in our life. Sometimes you have to skip to the next chapter and move on to better things. In ordinary to even move forward in life, we have to be open to new things that are coming our way. it is way to much of us with talent, well-educated, & really wised. We tend to forget that though. Well guess what? DON’T. Don’t be afraid to move forward. Don’t lose out on what can be your next big deal, or your next big job that pays the price you always desired. Don’t be afraid to approach others that are in a much higher stage than you, they might be the next help to your solution or dream. Also being open to new ideas can help you stay focus on other things besides the problems you have behind closed doors.

 

#4 CUT OFF TIME Ο‡

It’s definitely time to refresh your life, meaning to let go of  bad spirits & toxic souls that are around you. In this era so many negative people bring negativity in your life that you begin to be negative to. NOT GOOD! Stop being afraid to let go of certain people that is no good. Not blaming others, because we do have a choice to choose how we are, but just by having someone who is just as negative or worst, can just make sh*t even more toxic. Did you know two toxic people or multiple toxic people together makes your life so much complicated. Drama, messy bs, he say/she say, lies, fighting, and so much other irrelevant non-sense. Who wants to keep dealing with that? NOT ME! and you shouldn’t neither.

You have to be authentic with yourself and know that misery loves company, so the more you entertain people bullsh*t, you will continue to be in something that isn’t even benefiting your life. Don’t be easily manipulated by others. Some people are naturally evil, and you have to understand that it is nothing you can do to change people. So what do you do about that? CUT THEM OFF!

 

#5 SEEK MENTAL HEALTH COUNSELING/HELP & STOP BLAMING OTHERS

Some people are so stuck in there a** that they don’t believe in seeking help. Accept the fact you have a PROBLEM. I DID. YOU CAN TO! Being in denial because you don’t want to look crazy or care about what other people think, will not help you get better at all. You will continue to keep living a lie. Stop living to please others, and live to please you. Self-care is important. So take care of your mental, your body, your soul. Seeking a COUNSELOR works. It’s better talking to someone, who completely knows nothing about you, and will tell you like it is 100%.

Lets be real. Think about it. How many times have you had episodes, because someone “made you mad” or that person or people “sound dumb”, so you just completely went off and throw super massive temper tantrums. If you are the one always “going off and have super bad temperament issues”, i’m sorry you are the PROBLEM. Not 10 people are all just dumb, and you are the brilliant one here, but the main aggressive one that is cussing everyone out.

I had to learn the hard way. I thought about my actions, and really sat in watch certain ways how i react to certain situations. I don’t much throw temper tantrums, but i admit that i have flaws that i definitely needed to work on and still do. I have more problems (Internal then out). I have had debates & arguments no need to front, but not with so many people because i stay to myself a lot. I’m not innocent one bit. I am pretty much open to be honest about my lifestyle.

I can actually open up and admit to the world, I have seek counseling, and also do my own therapy now. I still have some work to do, but the best thing is that i took the initiative to work on myself. I put me FIRST. When you know deep down you have a problem, sometimes you can’t get rid of that problem on your own. It’s okay to admit to it. But, you have to stop living a lie, and live in your truth. You know sometimes is wrong every time you burst out into tears, or you have black outs. You just like to blame others for that problem. People aren’t going to change for you, no matter what you dislike about them, and honestly you have to really sit in think (Who am i to tell someone about themselves), as humans we tend to forget that we have issues we need to work out before judging the next person on the side of us. So you have to understand and realize that no one can’t really make you lash out but yourself. GET HELP. Take your mental health serious, because a lot of people don’t and sometimes situations turn out to a bad outcome. Life is precious, take it serious and be honest with your issues and willing to change them.

 

I hope that these tips are helpful, if they are shoot me an email or DM me on my social media, Lets chat about it! Life is tough & sometimes we need an extra ear to hear us out! 

 

Make sure you check out my other blogs, and my other tabs on my site! Happy Mother’s Day and ill be back with another blog soon!

6 self-care facts for stressful days

When your life becomes more stressful and overwhelming sometimes sleeping it off isn’t always just quite enough. I feel that taking time out and actually working on the things that are bothersome can be a bit challenging but 100% worth trying. I have learned so much about facts on self-care that don’t always mean it have to be the simple things like getting a massage or drinking chamomile tea. 

My #1 thought now is to focus on more of my inner self then my outer self. Learning how to block out unwanted bullsh*t, and focusing on your mind&body should always be your motive. I learned how to dump the past me and let go of things not worth me bringing into my life today. I feel more at ease when i begin to do my own research on fixing my issues dealing with stress. So here are a few facts that might help you.

 

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SET LIMITS FOR YOURSELF

Learning to focus on you more, is helping you build your self-confidence. SAY NO SOMETIMES!

It’s totally fine to be confused, and to allow yourself to not be committed and to be responsible for other people. I know it is some people out there like myself probably made (promises&commitments) to do things they second guessed about agreeing to. If you are unsure, just know you don’t have to and not obligated to. SET LIMITS for yourself.

β€œStop giving more to others then you are giving to yourself, focus on you more even if it sounds selfish.”

  • KEEP YOUR SAME ENERGY
  • STICK TO YOUR WORDS
  • NO MEANS NO!
  • DON’T HAVE NO REGRETS WHEN YOU SAY NO
  • STAY COMMITTED TO YOURSELF 
  • DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF

 

 

 

BREATHE IN LET IT OUT

Everyone bodies react differently when they are under some kind of stress, but most people still feel the same symptoms. You start to feel weak, heart beating at a much faster pace, break out in the face, muscles tighten up, and so much more. To deal with these random stress symptoms, you have to train your mind to notice every sign of stress so you will know how to respond in stressful situations. Practice breathing techniques to help you relax better. These are some techniques i do that help me out a lot i found online on http://www.sarahrosecoaching.com very helpful! been using these for a little bit!

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PROCESS IT THROUGH

Turn off your old thoughts and write down some new ones. You deserve a good mental cleanse. Try journaling, free thoughts writing, or get on your laptop, go to your note pad and type away. You have to process it all through and not just rush into your thoughts. My favorite thing to do is a Mental Cleanse←Click that if curious. 

 

 

 

RE-EVALUATING YOUR PRIORITIES

Are you taking time out to think things through? Are you focusing on what is important instead of what is not? Are you worrying more than caring less about irrelevant things? Have you ever thought that maybe you need to take time out to figure out what are you really stressing for and what can you do to let it go? Maybe you trying to do more than what you can even handle. Pay attention and look at back then and now and see where exactly is things falling off so you can fix them.

   #1 PRIORITY: FOCUS ON SELF-CARE FOREVER!

 

 

 

YOGA 

So yoga has been one of the things that have helped me a lot when i am stressed. You can try so many yoga techniques  Try downloading apps or finding online yoga classes so you can stay in the comfort of your own home. Lately i been using Yogaburn, not only it helped me to lose some pounds it helped me relieve a lot of stress. Just click the yoga burn tab for more information. Promise you it’s worth it!

 

 

STAY OUT THE MIX

Sometimes we get caught up into situations that has nothing to do with US. Drama, Drama, Drama is something you don’t need added to your stress. Easy said then done that sometimes the company you keep try to drag you in there mess and you have to learn how to just say no, or not just feed into it. No matter how much you love your friends and family members sometimes it’s best to love them from a distance. Now when someone vent it is totally fine, venting is healthy and sometimes we need to express ourselves. But…going back & forth and dealing with toxic people can be overwhelming and put you in a bad place. You have to learn how to take a step and putting your guards up between you and them by protecting your happiness, energy, and ability to focus on your own problems.

 “At a time in my life i always felt obligated, but when i realize that i was to in tuned with everyone else problems instead of mines, i realized i had to let go. When i begin to stay out the mix, i started to be more happy, now i wake up with more happiness in my heart, and less worry”

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I wonder how many others have any thing they do for themselves when life gets hectic? Please drop down in the comments! I would love to learn some new facts or see if someone has something in common with me ;).

 

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